Reality Model
Human Needs:
To Live, To Love, Be Loved, Variety, Feel Important
Belief Window:
Principles
Rules:
If...Then
Behavior Patterns:
Action
Results
Natural Laws:
If the results of your behavior do not meet your needs, there is an incorrect principle in your belief window.
Results take time to measure.
Growth is the process of changing principles in your belief window.
When the results of your behavior do meet your needs, over time, you will experience inner peace.
Steps to Follow to Make a Change:
Identify the behavior pattern.
Identify possible principles driving the behavior (Why?).
Predict future behavior based on principles identified in step 2.
Identify alternative principles.
Predict future behavior based on the new principle identified in step 4.
Compare steps 3 and 5—which behavior makes more sense?
Attitude
by Charles Swindoll
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company . . . a church . . . a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past . . . we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way . . . we cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. . . . We are in charge of our attitudes!”